One Day, One Lifetime

2 October 2016, a day eleven months in the making.

First, let’s do a quick recap and review of the vendors:

  1. Gowns – Blessed Brides
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    • Rather pricey but a good selection of gowns with varied designs.
  2. Suits – Fashion Tailors Menswear
    • J tailored his suit and rented 2 tuxedos, pretty affordable and friendly (but fashionable) bunch of uncles who look like they’ve worked there their entire lives. Jimmy has worked with Mr Goh Chok Tong and a handful of other Cabinet people, so you can trust the quality of their suits!
  3. Flowers (Car deco, corsages) – Sweet as Cosmos (from Carousell)
    • Decided to go with her instead of One Olive (tie in with Blessed Brides) because it was much more affordable
  4. Bridal bouquet – JM Flowers
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    • JM is at Thomson, not the main stretch but the road behind.
    • They do bridal bouquets too, just show them pictures of what you’re looking for and they can quote you a price. Seasonal flowers like peonies will cost much more.
  5. Posies for bridesmaids – Fresh cut flowers from JM Flowers, hand wrapped by us!
    • Wide selection of fresh cut flowers at a reasonable price
    • If you’re attempting to wrap your own bouquets, make sure you have all the necessary tools, tape and ribbons. Will make your life so much easier.
  6. Bridal make up – Makeup by K.Lin
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    • Very friendly MUA who specialises in natural make up looks by enhancing your own features so you’ll still look like yourself!
  7. Actual day photography – Daniel Beh
    • Award winning photographer, need I say more? Can’t wait to get the photos!
  8. Actual day videographer – Ichiro Films
    • The videographer we got was Lance, funny guy who has lots of ideas. We really loved the express highlights video! Can’t wait to see the rest!
  9. Photo Booth – CHIO Photobooth
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    • Reasonably priced (also my secondary school senior) photo booth with live projection of the images to the ballroom screen. I think the guests got a laugh seeing their comic photos projected on a 3-storey screen.
  10. Pre-wedding photoshoot – 太郎花子
    • Awesome, awesome studio. Loved all the photos and best of all, they’re cheap, compared to Singapore’s bridal studios. Like dirt cheap. Our photoshoot (including shipping fees for the albums and framed pictures) probably cost us less than S$1,700.
  11. Bridesmaids’ dresses – Her Velvet Vase
    • I wanted something wearable – no garish flowers or in neon colours that they’d just chuck the dresses at the back of their closets after that day.
    • So I picked a lace dress in jade green, mid-length and with sleeves. I think they all looked fab in the dresses!
  12. Venue – South Beach
    • Beautiful, beautiful ballroom. I think our guests will remember the ballroom for a long time to come!
  13. Rings – Tiffany & Co.
    • His: Tiffany Notes ‘I Love You’ in Platinum
    • Hers: Shared Setting Band, 3mm

To be honest, the whole day was a blur and I seriously cannot remember much of what happened that day and night.

What I do remember is that I forgot to take solo shots with my parents and several other people. 😦

Other than that, I think the day went pretty well, I don’t recall any glitches (at least none that were unplanned) and I *think* everyone enjoyed themselves. Except of course, my bridesmaids who worked so hard that day and two of them who stayed over the night before to help out. FTL, LOL.

I’m actually glad that I gave up the idea of DIY-ing my bridal bouquet the night before because I was so tired??

After going through all that, my take-away lessons are: 1. manage your expectations 2. your guests won’t know 3. this is just one day of a lifetime with your husband.

When you put all that into perspective then you’ll realise what is really important.

Of course, I must thank my husband (gawd, I need to get used to using that term) for letting me have free reins over the event, which basically means that I had the honour of taking care of all the little details while he took care of the bigger ones. Like footing the bill. LOL. Oh, and alcohol.

We’re just really, really glad we got that out of the way!

No, really. I was so stressed I had nightmares every other night and was so irritable that I took it out on J. I mean, the tiniest things could set me off and I’ll be brooding for the whole day.

I felt so miserable and kept thinking why did I even bother having this dinner, I started having abandonment thoughts. Like, screw this dinner, let’s just elope.

So brides, please don’t put too much (unnecessary) stress on yourself and your future husband and really, just enjoy the process. Easy for me to say now that it’s over.

I’m looking forward to the photos and will update when I have them!

Till then, tata!

 

 

 

Review: Rent A Dress

So the concept is simple, you go on to their website, select a dress you like that’s in your size and you check out to rent it.

It’s quite a brilliant concept really, why pay a couple of hundred dollars or thousands of dollars for a dress that you’re probably going to just wear once and then let it sit in the abyss of your wardrobe?

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I’ve been eyeing this two piece for the longest time, since I saw it while hunting for bridesmaids and mother-of-the-bride dresses but I didn’t have any excuses to rent it!

The excuse opportunity (to spend money) presented itself when my husband (omg, still getting used to this term) told me that we had to attend a dinner this weekend (tonight, actually).

*HAPPY FACE*

This two piece appealed to me because 1. I am a sucker for high waisted anything, 2. it is not too revealing and 3. it doesn’t make me look old!

I’m digressing – I logged in here (after many years of neglect) for a reason!

Ok, so it was a UK6 and I wasn’t too sure if I could fit, so naturally I opted for the Try On option! $10 try on fee and $10 courier fee, so that’s $20 right?

I would like to highlight that the lady who was liaising with me was very nice and patient, so this is really not a ranting about bad service post. There was some confusion during the enquiries, first they said the dress was available then they said it wasn’t then they said they’ll call me but they didn’t, then they eventually did.

Long story short, the two piece was delivered to me at 11am this morning, way ahead of the scheduled time of 2pm. Bonus points for that.

I tried it on excitedly and IT FITS! YAY! I texted the lady and told her that ok, I’ll take it!

So this is where I say what I came here to say.

I realised that I had to pay the full rental of $80 + $10 courier fee on top of the $10 try on fee + $10 courier fee, total outlay = $110! What? After some quick calculations, it became clear to me that this rental thingy is not as cheap as I thought! Dang.

I texted the lady again and (very shamelessly) asked if there were any promo codes for first timers (nope, don’t have) and if the $10 try on fee can be offset from the rental (nope, cannot). Which I must say is not too unreasonable right? I mean, I paid $10 to try it on and it fits, I want to rent it, but wait, I have to pay the full rental price?

Doesn’t make sense at all!

I told her what I thought and I asked a friend who has tried their services before – she got the offset and a first timer discount! No fair!

I must say though the lady was still very nice and patient, and after discussing with her colleague, we came to an agreeable arrangement.

My beef with this whole episode was:

  1. Why do I have to pay for the $10 courier fee again if the dress is already with me (for the try on option)? This is borderline shady business, man. If I hadn’t shamelessly asked about it, I’d have stupidly paid for it, which I’m sure some people have.
  2. Personally, I feel that offsetting the $10 try on fee from the rental is a small price to pay to encourage your customers (especially those sitting on the fence) to actually rent the dress! It builds goodwill since people will be more willing to try dresses and therefore higher chances of renting something!
  3. WHY NO FIRST TIMER DISCOUNT! Most e-commerce shops offer some kind of first timer discount to encourage sales, unless of course Rent A Dress is so confident of its business model or has a large customer base/regulars, IDK, that it doesn’t see the need to do this sort of marketing?

This business model is slowly gaining traction and we’re seeing more and more of such rental dress companies popping up, like Stylelease and Covetella.

So who knows, more competition = more promotions for us consumers?

Disclaimer: This is not a complaint post – I’m happy with the dress I booked and the lady I was liaising with was very nice and accommodating towards my shameless attempts at getting a reduction in the rental fee. She offered me an inch and I accepted it, so no hard feelings. Just some honest opinions that’s all.

 

Hullo!

So I almost forgot about this space (I just discovered that I’ve been “a member since 2005”!) until I received an email asking me if I wanted to collaborate. Like what?

The last time I blogged was…… 3 years ago? And it was a selling post. LOL.

In case anyone wanted to know, that pair of Doc Marts is *still* available! I guess Doc Marts lovers are not trawling through Carousel and selling blogposts looking for them. Ha ha ha.

They’re gathering a lot dust in my shoe cabinet and will probably be given away soon.

Much has happened since 2013. T’was a tough time I was going through then but all’s good and so much better now!

I’m *gasp* getting married! *shocked face*

Wahahaha, I can’t believe it either! But it’s true! In about 3 months’ time to be exact. Preparations are underway and by preparations I really mean browsing through Taobao (that is a deep dark hole, I would advise against it) and ordering a bajillion things (which cost a bajillion yuan :() and more.
1% of what I have bought so far. I’m quite satisfied with all of my purchases so far though!

China is playing a big part in my wedding – my bridal shoot was done there too!

I was planning on doing my own flowers but now I’m not so sure if I’ll make it. I mean the bouquet’s pretty easy but the car deco looks quite challenging. Well, I’ve bought all the stuff I need – or so I think – so I guess it’s worth a shot? I’ve also asked for quotes from like the professional people, in case I fail terribly. Which is possible.

On the work front, I’m still at the same place (this is what old age does to you) BUT I should be leaving soon! *crossing my fingers (and toes!)*

The husband-to-be has very generously offered me a position as housewife (I still cringe at being described with this word) though I’m not sure if I am gonna be okay LIVING OFF someone. I mean, the last time I lived off someone I was about 20???? And I don’t mean living under my parents’ roof (that’s been going on for 32 years now LOL FTL) but as in literally taking money for day-to-day expenses. I can’t even imagine it? #legit

There are murmurings of me going back to join my dad (AGAIN), with a partner but nothing’s concrete. I’m worried – there are plenty of details to iron out. Like, who’s going to do the GST filing (I thought of this while peeing this morning) amongst many other things of course. LOL.

Everything’s still just words but I guess we’ll have a clearer direction once the wedding is over.

I have also started on Dayre though I really don’t fancy typing long assed passages on my phone. Typing should be done on  QWERTY keyboard yo. #firstworldproblems

The only good thing about that platform is it allows direct upload of photos which I can do on WP too but maybe laterrrr.

Alright, shall come back here as and when I remember. I’m so glad I chope-d the selsel address nong time ago! Woo! And hope that I don’t morph into bridezilla as we near the big day! Although my bridesmaids might already be feeling the effects… Sorry girls!

doctor martens manton suede desert boot

doctor martens manton suede desert boot

DR MARTENS MANTON SUEDE LEATHER WEDGE SOLE DESERT BOOTS – DARK BLUE

Update to a classic style desert boot from Dr Martens.

Genuine suede leather uppers
2-eyelet ring lace-up
Dr Martens air-cushioned sole and Z-welt

This is a pair of unisex wedge boots, for both guys and girls! I have here a pair of size US6 (for girls) / US5 (for guys) / UK4 / EU37 going for S$100.

Brand new and never been worn before! Clearing my room now, all must go!

Price is negotiable for fast deals and sincere buyers.

Drop me a note in the comments section or email me at selsel (at) gmail (dot) com if you need more photos or if you have any questions. I’ll be happy to answer! 🙂

RAGE!

On the verge of exploding over a chain of emails between Pet*pia and me.

So I had this MISFORTUNE of purchasing a deal for dog grooming with free oxygen spa and some microbubble shit that is supposed to be good for their skin. Jenny had previously strongly recommended me to them because apparently the spa really works – they’d itch lesser and smell good for a longer period of time.

Then I had this issue with their Facebook sharing thing which you had to share the deal before you could actually purchase the deal. As I was doing it on the phone, since my office PC blocked Facebook, I had some problems with the sharing and then subsequently the registering.

I managed to register for JJ but couldn’t do it for Jojo. I thought it was a glitch!

So I got Jenny to help me do it from home and yay, it was done. Both doggies would get to go for a spa! Ok, I felt guilty because I haven’t been spending a lot of time with them and so wanted to make it up to them by sending them to a spa.

Little did I know this was the start of a horrible customer service experience.

First of all the appointment booking was a nightmare which I totally can understand because obviously I know many people would want to take advantage of their deal so securing an appointment was already a problem.

Secondly they sent numerous emails asking for this and that, contact nos., payment, dogs’ DOBs, gender, blah blah.

Y U NO ask in one email?!

Jenny told them to liase with me directly since they were asking for so much info over so many emails, it’d be better to just contact me.

THEN SUDDENLY.

This ARROGANT person sent a reply and said that since Jojo is my dog, I’d have to top up $185 (full rate) for him to get the grooming and the spa.

IT CAME AS A BIG SHOCK TO ME because I totally did not expect this.

And they had to add this sentence, “Just for info, there are other customers who also snatched more than one slot per household but are understanding enough to pay full price for the second companion.”

Which made me even madder.

Apparently that was in the terms and conditions which I did not bother to read after trying SO MANY times to share the bloody deal on FB.

I. Was. Speechless.

Why did you have to add this sentence in the first place? You could have just said, unfortunately, the promotion is only applicable to dog per household, so perhaps you want to buy the deal again the next time we run this promotion?

OR.

Alternatively, you could top up $185 for Jojo to enjoy the full session of grooming and spa.

Totally DID NOT have to add “other customers are understanding enough to pay the full amount”.

You are insinuating that I am not understanding enough? And you have to tell me other people are paying and I should pay to so that I can be deemed as understanding as them?

WHAT THE FUCK.

So I requested for a full refund for both the appointments because I am honestly not comfortable with them handling my doggies.

To which Mr Conceited replied and said I was hurling baseless accusations that they would mistreat my dogs (seeing as to how they handle the human customers, what more customers who can’t talk or defend themselves?) and that I have misconstrued their statements and taken his email negatively.

WORST OF ALL, insinuate that Jenny and I PLANNED to circumvent their T&Cs by booking separately and then becoming defensive because they found out.

DAFUQ.

We were honest about it because we didn’t read your T&Cs, bro! If we had, we wouldn’t have told you that Jojo was mine and to liase with me directly.

Dumbass. We’d have just continued on with this and not tell you la, right or not!?

SUPER ANGRY. You question my integrity, say I misconstrue your statements and hurl baseless accusations and still want to ACT YI GE TRANSPARENT AND FORTHCOMING.

FUCK THIS SHIT. I don’t deserve to be treated like that and I will NOT trust my doggies with you ever.

Below, my email reply to them in its entirety.

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